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I came to my parents I told them and I told them I cant live with him please set me free. Amen! loves Al-Muhsinoon (the gooddoers). Dn I am pregnant after my second daughter he kept her in rented house dt women already married n she have 5 year boy baby with first husband she kept relationship with my hubby n after along 5 years she get divorced with 1st husband now she staying with my hubby n she got 1 baby by my hubby. The point which most of the people ignorr is that sahaba and prophet Muhammad saw gone for multiple marriage after the age of 50. wish. This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh when we started talking, I made it very clear to him my thoughts of getting involved with a married man. If you respect your husband and his needs ISA he will respect yours. She cries every time they have intercourse and are intimate. with which Allaah has blessed you, for millions of women wish that they No one should have to have sex if they dont want to! We dont need a list like this from some fool to tell us how to treat our husband or future husband. Please dont misguide people.. if u dont actually know the answer. So that really shows how big a mans right is in this issue. destroyed your home for his sake? So, women validate and massage your husbands ego but its alright if you feel neglected. His duty is to protect and provide for the family, even if the wife is stronger and wealthier. As long as he is of good character and religiously committed, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption. Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (1084) from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) Of course sister if a woman wanted to have sex with her husband & intensionally he refuse it. You sir are correct issue at hand is that most people here are A. The Quran states that he must treat them justly making sure that he provides separate accommodations for each wife. Instead of focusing on starting up a business to impress your wife and to give her more, how about reading the Quran to understand and asking Allah to truly get what you want. Shouldnt man and wife be friends, ask for eacothers opinion as Our Prophet(pbuh)did? May Allaah make it easy for us to practice.InshaAllaah, when I get marriied! assalamualaikum,, I not married as yet but I see so much truth in this article by examples of those married or who has been married around me. Its NOT more rights which you have over us. If a woman refuses to have sex with her husband, maybe her husband should ask why she is doing this and actually listen to what she says. As for men cam think of other woman?? Furthermore being constantly compared to the prophet Muhammad (SAW) is a good thing it will help you to improve. al-Jaami al-Sagheer, no. Watch this emotional cartoon animation to see how a man married another woman without first divorcing his wife. JOIN US Facebook https://bit.ly/3yOap. This Turning on can be on different levels but its always there, whereas, this kind of attraction in women is nothing as compared to men, so she should be creative in keeping him attracted to herself, and always welcoming to the sexual needs of her husband! They was ringing me to amenice me to leave him. If he is willing to risk our marriage, our life, our children for another woman, then he must go ahead. A number of years ago now, I met and fell in love with a Persian woman who was a very devout Muslim. family life, and the man wishes for a wife with whom he can live in peace, yes, sex is not the only thing important in marriage, but it is the most important. Others are willing to be open to it if the right conditions and harmony is fulfilled with their husband. i`m not able to give my second husband a baby. For me it is so repulsive to imagine my beloved husband having another woman, making love to her and then the next day coming to me and making love to me. In Islam, this is allowed in the second marriage. you enjoy the pleasure of living Can a Muslim woman marry a non-Muslim man without requiring her husband to convert? Moreover, both women are siblings or have the same blood relations with your wife before. I feel that he is not having any love for me. i am being courted by a muslim man, and so far i find it a bit interesting i never knew someone like himhe claims he loves me and cant live w/out me, but he asked me this question, what if there was 2 of us? 2. to ask Allah of all that is good for you according to HIM. Q. A woman who cannot conceive a child doesnt have to be frigid. Based on this piece, the man just wants a subservient slave who will try to please his dirty need, even his lust for other women, without expecting any reciprocation. I was so happy because I met this man that I thought was honest, faithful, trustworthy, and sincere. This is the silliest thing Ive read in awhile. My husband never ever thinks or talks to other women. Then he is not in true love with his first wife. Surely there are other ways that you can help her out financially without having to MARRY her! I dont want to go back dont want to live with that man anymore. Jazakalla hu khairan. and at the end of the Day his new wife will hardly hijacked the 1st wife position Meanwhile, steadfastness to beautiful attitudes is d key to attract attention. I cannot say Im a Muslim but I will not give charity (zakat) Its not pick and choose. and he (the husband) spends the night angry.. he wants to marry me but he said what if there was a 2nd one? Thank you thank you DR ABULU for the good work you just did in my life , my name is ALVINA i was married to my husband for two years and we were living together happily and we both love each other for this two year not until one bad evening when i came back from work late due to scares of transportation and he started queering and he said he does not trust me anymore and he can continue with this marriage anymore and he drove me away from his house unknowingly to him that i was carrying his two month old baby inside me i tried informing he but he won,t listen to me anymore i thought i will never get him back again and i loved him so much and i promise not to rest until am able to get him back to my life so i began to look for a solution and help to get him back this was because i do not want to give birth to a fatherless child so one afternoon as i was browsing on my computer i came across a testimony shared by miss Rachael from UK how she got his ex husband back with the help of Dr abulu of (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) so i decided to give him a try and to my best surprise the spell this man cast on my husband work just within two days i contacted him . I typed this up on my phone. and dont let someone walk over you. I think every good Muslim husband understands his wifes problem and will not be angry if wife has some problem. It just means that all (straight) men do, at some point in their lives, consider having another woman (i.e. And since Hajj is the jihad of a woman, accepting polygamy for the first wife is more than jihad. She lives in Senegal with her husband and his other wives. It depends on wife to dress well and apply perfume and take care of his special foods to raise his desire. I find point 3 rather black and white. I feel like our private parts are purchased and we are simply paid vaginas that have to be available for sex 100% of the time regardless of our feelings. i love him more than anything else. Have taqwa women! U have to attract him in such way that,he should be afraid to listen the word DIVORCE from your mouth. How could ones condition change so drastically? An obligation to support the wifes life needs. The only thing more difficult than translating thoughts to words is translating feelings to words. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". GOD has not created women emotionless If you (men) want to do a second marriage. Do you know his family and friends? I thought I wanted to convert but to see this is how men really think? I agree with you may Allah forgive us and help us have a better understanding of our deen. I dont know if I should go away, dissappear. If you dont then dont expect much from him. , Jazakumullah Khairan, may Allah strenghten you and give you more wisdom. This entails having respect and loyalty for one another, along with the feelings of passion and love to one another. Her patience in putting up with her husbands marrying a 1. Bukhari and Muslim Actually, this can be part of the marriage contract. yeah sure , hell like that. But Allah is forgiving and merciful. He lies, so I dont really know what is going on. Allaah says You should not even be looking at other woman mate! So, now YOU move away from in front of the TV and make ME a sandwich. 6 mos later he asked me to marry him. 0.001%. If he doesnt abuse you or sleep around. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. It should not be a form of abuse. Mock or make fun of her. Salaam is it haram or halal to give ur husband ahead? @Marij Usmani Excerpted, with slight modifications, form: www.islam-qa.com If you are worried about not being able to do justice both inwardly and materially. neglect of their children. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. And trust me, if your husband must choose between divorcing you before he takes a second wife. Do you think anyone cares about what you think when we have the Quran and the Sunnah?! May Allah guide us all to the right path.Ameen. 4. (second) marriage will make him more chaste and prevent him from doing , Sweet advice, now i just need to find a good husband to tell him such things , Lol I feel you..I cant wait to get married to actually tell my huband these things.. :-D. Just be sure that you find the right person. means of entering Paradise, as it says in the hadeeth narrated by Ibn WOW where did you evolve that doctrine -_- I mean that holds true for slaves but for multiple marriages, nowhat if someone has more than average desirewould you rather see him satisfy it via haram means and let him go to hell or to have his company in heaven.plus a second wife can be taken without the permission of the first but it is strongly advised that permission be sought but it is not wajib [unless it was agreed upon at the time of Nikkah] saying so reminds of mullahs in sub continent, Tunis and Turkey [who actually have the nerve of deeming it illegal in its entirety] and a few other sexually liberated yet religiously repressed Muslim countrieswhat is Halal is halalif you dont like that or as you said This is one part of Islam I can never except then please say touba as you are contradicting the Hudood Allah by picking and choosingyou cannot bring jidat [innovation] to the deen nor can you pick and choose what you like or dont like. She took my hand and with tears in her eyes said: This is very hard for me, but I hope that we can be sisters her words broke my heart. This matter of refusing sex is not poured in cement. They also have a duty towards each other and must be . but Allah ordered it in quran, the order of allah is justice because islam is full. Establishment of kinship among fellow human beings. Muhsinoon (gooddoers) to be lost In none of the religious scriptures like the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. Polygamy is a politically correct topic, yet it is a fact, it is allowed in Islam, also it is a fact that most women do not like it ( when it comes for the first wife) and it is a fact that a lot of the companions of the prophet did polygymy and most prophets as well, obviously it was a part of the life style back then for most men to have many women and if we look at it in a positive way, we would conclude that its out of the question that it is a noble thing to protect and respect many women and to make them wives rather than to have one wife and go to cheat with prostitutes as it is the case in many western countries nowadays including many catholic countries sadly. The future marriage will be a happy one. Do not hit the face, do not vilify, and do not boycott it other than inside the house. ( HR. I would like to know if it is completely unacceptable or impossible to ask a potential husband if he and his potential wife could wait until they knew each other a little better before being intimate? then how can he accept to destroy the home of his Muslim brother and split All men are different and do expect different things, same goes for women, marriage is about communicating, you are not just two people that meet in day to have sex and thats it, where is the communication, find out what YOUR husband wants and not what this idiot wants. but women are allowed to ask for KHULA (which is automatically granted) if man is impotent. Please get some counseling for your situation. Yes I used to have fights with my husband on pity things because he was not giving me the love I wanted I wanted his care I wanted him to see I stay home all alone I go frustrated n crazy. Your just Jealous!!! I love my husband so deeply and wholeheartedly that i can never even imagine myself being attracted to another man. There would be more than four million females in Great Britain 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband. Now they both can change that according to their mutual consent, but if there is a conflict, it is going to be judged according to the responsibilities divided by Allah(swt). If you want a second wife you can go out and get one as long as you know that I will not be here when you come back! The sahaba were real men and were fighters and very responsible people. I know, this one may be kinda hard to swallow. It is never written anywhere where a woman commands her husband. During paediatric age however, in childhood itself a female child has more immunity than a male child. It is not wajib brother it is merely a choice/optional for Men. However a woman is not the same level as the man as shes required to please him in whatever situation unless its a situation where she has no power to do anything about (i.e monthly periods). A father should be responsible for the life of his children even though he has separated from the mother. Jazakum Allah khayran. Im glad you as a man disagree with this person. Make sure you marry a good person that will oblige to your wishes that is all. i really like this article. I got married to him for my family, soon after marriage the day I went to his house the entire house burden n my father in laws responsibility was on me. Any true Muslim woman that follows the Quran and not her husbands list of expectations would know how to treat her husband, a stupid list like this is not even necessary. When polygamy is brought up we have this notion or fantasy that the man will be living the life and fulfill his desire and the women will suffer. Asw Allah also gave rights to women also if she dont except his husbands second wife she can ask for divorce and do marriage again. A man in Islam should only marry no more and no less than 4 wives only. He is a man and capable of anything. Below is an explanation of one of the verses of the Quran. I will practice , When I get Maried.. Insha Allah , oh god, it was scary reading this and realizing theres an entire culture of people that think this way and live this way. Your husband is a human not an animal. form a relationship with a non-mahram man. despite all this my husband chats to women and deep down i have strong reason to suspect he has been with other women. That is, after such a divorce, the husband will separate the relationship with the wife. i`m sleeping alone. So what ..its his right to do so 2,3 or 4. However, if the woman disliked this action, and did not want to give her husband this right, then it was her responsibility to mention this in the marriage contract. He does not share the same bed with you for weeks What does a Women do then? I am a married woman with kids.My husband treats me very well and takes care of me well.Recenetly one of his relatives a guy almost about 10 years younger than I am and I became very close and before I knew it he fell in love with me.I told him that its not on but his feelings for me grew and grew. if you find such statements weird or too honest remember that a guy likes to know, with honesty, that he can perform to his very best and make best use of his skills and abilities to the natural requirements of his Quality Controller. She may declare that she loves him, but without her respect, he will quickly fall out of love with her. I would say some of the sisters plz know the different between yr opinion and the prove of the hathis or the quran, what you think doesnt matter what matter is what allah say. Mentally. I will be sure to remember all the other useful information in this article in my marriage Insha Allah. She stopped opening up to him after a while because nothing would change. 03 June, 2018 Q I am a career woman married for 13 years and have a child. Well the perception of people is different . However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. Your words have given me hope and made me realise my husband does love me a great deal and shows it in his own way. I am American, a Native American or referred to as a Red Indian in countries such as India. Ive had a friend with this situation. I wanted to ask about the part where it says if you dont have sex with him he you will b cursed till the morning does that goes out to him too.. Like if the wife wanted to have sex and he didnt doesnt he get cursed too ?? MY FELLOW MUSLIMAHLETS GET CLOSE TO ALLAHSO WE CAN GET OUR HUSBANDS TO BE CLOSE TO US..INSHA ALLAH.. Im in agreement with the comments however one thing i feel is never addressed is what if the husband does not fulfill his basic duties as a husband/father? When we wrote our nikkah, I ask this to be added. But it did.My husband did not get married to a second wife. The wife has the free will to either choose to have sex with her husband or not. Showing us no tenderness or thoughtfulness, making us second best to your mum, your family, your mates. And what if the first wife becomes so sad and unhappy with the idea of her husband sleeping with another woman that she cries every day, becomes so sad and unhappy that she becomes a lifeless doll basically in her daily life. Allaah has made the wife a covering for her Sorry to hear what your husband does but believe me every single Muslim husband is not same.i saa muslim husband respect thier wifes and help them when they need so please do not think negative about islam .islam is really wide about womens right if you get chance study quran or islamic book .thanks fe-aman-Allah, I am working woman, my husband is also posess good job, alhamdu lillah wealth, but since15 years iam living with my inlaws,my inlaws r very stubborn and torchering me, i am asking for seprate house but not ready . It is not obligatory for the husband, if he wants to take a second wife, to have the consent of his first wife, but it is good manners and kindness to deal with her in such a manner that will minimize the hurt feelings such thing might produce. You men are so full of your selves. What a dumb thing to mention. i have done all types of treatment but no result. This will also keep a man loyal to you. to Allaah for this great blessing and strive to preserve it and the family But there are certain aspects of that needs addressing. Second, third and fourth marriage is allowed by sharia. The coworker response, he never told you? my response,tell me what?the coworker replies, he has been married for two yrs and has a child. I confronted him and he lied about having a wife and child. I let the whole world, my familly, anythung for his sake and I love him so much but sometimes he is totally different, cold, and acting bad because of little things. I feel. The bottom line though is I like ur article. Both of you need to brush up on Islamic knowledge and discussions pertaining to polygamy. Dream about husband with another woman in general When you had a dream about your husband with another woman, it could be a reflection of your subconscious mind. Im not even married but IN SHA ALLAH Ill marry the girl I love & the girl for whom Im praying. 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